Do you get lonely when you write?
Is there ever a moment when you wish you could be doing something else?
Maybe you fall into the pressure of an alternative activity, even if it means finding company through the characters in a book or movie.
Writing takes a toll on the mental and physical camaraderie that is often reported as a healthy way of living. However, in order to become a quality writer, you are forced to push human interaction aside more frequently than others.
I personally enjoy the quiet, isolated atmosphere I experience when clacking away at my keyboard, but sooner or later that cabin-fever strikes.
Connecting with people is fuel for creatives – it is the most raw form of experiencing true human emotion. Emotion that must be apparent in your writing.
So how can you break through the solitude that comes with shaping words into meaning?
Online human interaction
You don’t always have to see or even hear the people you are talking to. Every week I handle a handful of phone calls with freelance clients and I would not have the career I have today without that personal interaction. Not only that, but these short calls help me refine my networking skills. I always feel nervous before a business phone call, but afterwards I feel a great sense of accomplishment. It’s never as difficult as it originally seemed!
Communicating with others can also come in the form of email or commenting online. I have had the pleasure of speaking with several wonderful writers – both receiving and giving advice. Not to mention, engaging in these forms of communication will always help your blogging/writing platform.
Even not speaking with anyone can bring a sense of satisfaction. I know whenever I create or tweak my websites or spend time building my brand I am indirectly communicating my image to others and relieving some stress.
Laugh with friends and family (and learn from those who contradict your own tendencies)
There is no substitute for direct human interaction and finding time to spend with family and friends is the ultimate relief for sitting in a room by yourself. A night out laughing with friends or family will promote your own happiness and get your creative juices flowing.
I know for a fact, that even some of my closest friends and family members can get on my nerves, but the ability to accept those around you and realize that they are there for a reason will humble you and bring balance to your own perspectives.
Share your loneliness
You don’t always have to get away from your writing to build relationships with other people. In fact, sharing your writing opens up the floodgates for the exchange of more personal information. People love talking about themselves, and if you ask someone to review your writing and explain to them what you are working on now, they will most likely reciprocate with the current status of their own career and overall life.
Building relationships is a two-way street and it will never hurt your writing.
Explore and connect with the world
Traveling to unknown lands, helping others in need and getting out into the world are all parts of experiencing the life we are granted. If you are young, take some risks! If not, take some anyway. You’ll always find more perspective and an overall increase in happiness when doing so.
What about the risks?
If you fail, you’ll die after experiencing something incredible. If you succeed, you’ll die after experiencing something incredible. If you refuse to try, you refuse life.
Get out there and join the world.
Let me know in the comments how you fight the cabin-fever that comes along with writing.